The Lions' Pride

I just thought we were all hypocrites. Lol.

My question is, did you approve of other guys she's dated KPR? If so, no reason not to give the guy a chance and have trust in your sisters judgment..

Not to turn this into a therapy session, but you can't do much about the man other than make a judgement. It's your sister where you have some influence. And by that I mean, don't tell her what to do, but if you're close, ask some thoughtful questions about why she likes him and what she hopes to get out of it. Right now, she probably feels like she has to justify to you, or prove his worth, so she's not even thinking about her own feelings, just proving to you that it's not a mistake that some will immediately assume -- take that defense down and tell her you trust her and are sure she made a good pick, and then try to understand where her mind/heart is, she may end up being rather honest at that point that she doesn't see it as some long term option. I can't make speculations from a few posts, but there is a lot of philosophy that places these relationships as some sort of correction effort or grasp from the past. You mentioning your own experience with your birth parents/mother might (and obviously I don't know but worth exploring) have something to do with it. Some sort of father figure type relationship going here? And as others say, maybe all is good and she just met a great person who happens to be older.